Textbook Ch. 10 pg.105
Brigham Young suggested, "Parents should never drive their children, but lead them along, giving them knowledge as their minds are prepared to receive it. Chastening may be necessary betimes, but parents should govern their children by faith rather than by the rod, leading them kindly by good example into all truth and holiness."
Thoughts:
Keep your perspective clear when raising children. Remember that you are not just taking care of a child but you are teaching and rearing them to some day become Gods and Goddesses. Keep an eternal outlook.
Textbook Ch. 10 pg. 108
President Ezra Taft Benson counseled parents, "Take time to be a real friend to your children. Listen to your children, really listen. Talk with them, laugh and joke with them, sing with them, play with them, cry with them, hug them, honestly praise them. Yes, regularly spend uncrushed one-on-one time with each child. Be a real friend to your children."
Textbook Ch. 10 pg. 111
President Joseph F. Smith counseled, "Use no lash and no violence, but...approach them with reason, with persuasion and love unfeigned... The man that will be angry at his boy, and try to correct him while he is in anger, is in the greatest fault;... You can only correct your children by love, in kindness, by love unfeigned, by persuasion, and reason."
Give your children the chance to decide for themselves. Don't just always tell them no. Let them hear your thoughts in a rational way and then let them make their own decisions. It will teach them more things than telling them no will.
Textbook Ch. 12 pg. 131
Elder Bruce C. Hafen and SIster Marie K. Hafen explained, "Just as a mother's body may be permanently marked with the signs of pregnancy and childbirth, [ the Savior ] said,' I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands' (1 Nephi 21:15-16) For both a mother and the Savior, those marks memorialize a wrenching sacrifice-the sacrifice of begetting life-for her, physical birth; for him, spiritual rebirth."
Tuesday, May 29, 2012
Marriage Preparation Favorite Quotes
Quotes from "Dating Verses Hanging Out" By Elder Dallin H. Oaks Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. May 2005 CES Fireside
"Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to “shop around” in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects. The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It encouraged conversation. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. It gave opportunities to learn how to initiate and sustain a mature relationship. None of that happens in hanging out."
"Young women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent. Don’t make it easy for young men to hang out in a setting where you women provide the food. Don’t subsidize freeloaders. An occasional group activity is OK, but when you see men who make hanging out their primary interaction with the opposite sex, I think you should lock the pantry and bolt the front door."
"A “date” must pass the test of three p’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off."
"Don’t wait for happiness to be thrust upon you. Seek it out in service and learning. Make a life for yourself. And trust in the Lord."
Quotes from "Becoming a Quality Person Now" By Elder Marvin J. Ashton of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. February 1993 Ensign
“The real fun of life is in overcoming obstacles while still happily hoping everything will work out."
"Brothers and sisters, regroup, if that’s what is needed. Do not wait. Rather fill your life with service, education, personality development, love for all, and other such meaningful traits. Live with purpose each day."
"Simple and more frequent dates allow both men and women to “shop around” in a way that allows extensive evaluation of the prospects. The old-fashioned date was a wonderful way to get acquainted with a member of the opposite sex. It encouraged conversation. It allowed you to see how you treat others and how you are treated in a one-on-one situation. It gave opportunities to learn how to initiate and sustain a mature relationship. None of that happens in hanging out."
"Young women, resist too much hanging out, and encourage dates that are simple, inexpensive, and frequent. Don’t make it easy for young men to hang out in a setting where you women provide the food. Don’t subsidize freeloaders. An occasional group activity is OK, but when you see men who make hanging out their primary interaction with the opposite sex, I think you should lock the pantry and bolt the front door."
"A “date” must pass the test of three p’s: (1) planned ahead, (2) paid for, and (3) paired off."
"Don’t wait for happiness to be thrust upon you. Seek it out in service and learning. Make a life for yourself. And trust in the Lord."
Quotes from "Becoming a Quality Person Now" By Elder Marvin J. Ashton of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles. February 1993 Ensign
“The real fun of life is in overcoming obstacles while still happily hoping everything will work out."
"Brothers and sisters, regroup, if that’s what is needed. Do not wait. Rather fill your life with service, education, personality development, love for all, and other such meaningful traits. Live with purpose each day."
"As you strive to become a quality person, commune daily with your Heavenly Father who knows you best of all. He knows your talents, your strengths, and your weaknesses. You are here on the earth at this time to develop and refine these characteristics. I promise you He will help you. He is aware of your needs."
"Fill your life with service, education, personality development, love for all, and other such meaningful traits. Live with purpose each day."
“While you should be friendly with all people, select with great care those whom you wish to have close to you. They will be your safeguards in situations where you may vacillate between choices, and you in turn may save them.”
President Gordon B. Hinckley (1910–2008), “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” New Era, Jan. 2001, 11.
“It is better, my friends, to date a variety of companions until you are ready to marry. Have a wonderful time, but stay away from familiarity. Keep your hands to yourself. It may not be easy, but it is possible.”
President Gordon B. Hinckley (1910–2008), “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” New Era, Jan. 2001, 13.
“Kissing has … degenerated to develop and express lust instead of affection, honor, and admiration. To kiss in casual dating is asking for trouble. What do kisses mean when given out like pretzels and robbed of sacredness?”
President Spencer W. Kimball (1895–1985), The Teachings of Spencer W. Kimball, ed. Edward L. Kimball (1982), 281.
“Do you want capability, safety, and security in dating and romance, in married life and eternity? Be a true disciple of Jesus. Be a genuine, committed, word-and-deed Latter-day Saint. Believe that your faith has everything to do with your romance, because it does. You separate dating from discipleship at your peril. Jesus Christ, the Light of the World, is the only lamp by which you can successfully see the path of love and happiness. How should I love thee? As He does, for that way ‘never faileth.’”
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, “How Do I Love Thee?” New Era, Oct. 2003, 8.
Quotes from "Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives" By Hawkins
Ch. 1 Young Adulthood and Pathways to Eternal Marriage
"Scholars have found that young adults' readings for marriage is largely determined by their ability to love and communicate." pg. 8
"The ability to love is defined by how one asserts, expresses, and defines his or her importance, and the importance of others, in intimate as well as non-intimate relationships. Love is defined as the ability to be emotionally available to self and others, especially in times of need-that is, when loved ones are hurting or are fearful of being hurt-without requirements of performance, perfection, problem-solving, or production. Thus, the ability to love requires a combination of a sense of self-worth or personal security plus intimate regard for others." pg. 8
"Communication is defines as 'the ability to bargain, problem-solve, and make decisions.' In particular, the ability to communicate involves interacting with others in a way that consensus can be reached while respecting the rights of each individual." pg. 8
"Effective communication involves two primary skills-empathetic listening and clear-sening communication." pg. 8
Wednesday, May 23, 2012
Marriage Preparation
Favorite Readings:
Confidence Test: Fear to Faith in the Marriage Decision
Becoming a Quality Person Now
Dating Versus Hanging Out
Thoughts:
Confidence Test: Fear to Faith in the Marriage Decision
Becoming a Quality Person Now
Dating Versus Hanging Out
Thoughts:
While learning about the importance of dating in your single life I realized how important it is to continue these acts even when you are married. After marriage you can get distracted with the ways of life and the new responsibilities you hold. This can put your spouse to the side. Making sure you are dating them and not just “hanging out” is important to the relationship. After getting married you can get lazy and not continue to show your love and commitment to the other person. Going on dates often is important to continue to know your spouse and to be able to reconnect with them.
Marriage: Equal Partnership
Favorite Readings:
Strength in Counsel
Counseling with Our Councils
"A Man... Shall Cleave Unto His Wife": Marriage and Family Advice from the Old Testament
Thoughts:
Husbands and wives each have there own sacred responsibilities in the family. Making sure each person understands them and fulfills these callings is important in having a successful marriage. Sitting down and discussing and making sure each person is aware of there roles is an important step. Husbands should preside in the home and be the priesthood holder. Wives should be the nurture and care for the children. If one person has an issue with the other person it is best to talk about it and work through it. They should help each other in there responsibilities and support them.
Strength in Counsel
Counseling with Our Councils
"A Man... Shall Cleave Unto His Wife": Marriage and Family Advice from the Old Testament
Thoughts:
Husbands and wives each have there own sacred responsibilities in the family. Making sure each person understands them and fulfills these callings is important in having a successful marriage. Sitting down and discussing and making sure each person is aware of there roles is an important step. Husbands should preside in the home and be the priesthood holder. Wives should be the nurture and care for the children. If one person has an issue with the other person it is best to talk about it and work through it. They should help each other in there responsibilities and support them.
Marriage: Ordained of God
My Favorite Readings from week 3:
Marriage is Essential to His Eternal Plan
The Case for Marriage Video
Oneness in Marriage
Thoughts:
Marriage need doesn't just need love. It needs communication. It needs Humor. You need to be able to laugh through the hard times and enjoy the good times. Getting mad at every little thing will only cause problems. It is important to laugh and enjoy the moment. This mortal life is rough but as a couple you can uplift each other and help each other through instead of bringing each other down. Learn how to talk with each other so you are not holding things in. It will never help to not talk. Being able to say what you feel will help to get feelings out in the open so that you can work through them and not keep them bundled up inside. Families are forever and we need to work to keep them that way and not let them fail.
Marriage is Essential to His Eternal Plan
The Case for Marriage Video
Oneness in Marriage
Thoughts:
Marriage need doesn't just need love. It needs communication. It needs Humor. You need to be able to laugh through the hard times and enjoy the good times. Getting mad at every little thing will only cause problems. It is important to laugh and enjoy the moment. This mortal life is rough but as a couple you can uplift each other and help each other through instead of bringing each other down. Learn how to talk with each other so you are not holding things in. It will never help to not talk. Being able to say what you feel will help to get feelings out in the open so that you can work through them and not keep them bundled up inside. Families are forever and we need to work to keep them that way and not let them fail.
Sunday, May 20, 2012
The Big Picture
Favorite Readings:
Salvation-A Family Affair
Teaching the Doctrine of the Family
Things as They Really Are
Thoughts:
Families are a large part of the reason we are on the earth. We are all God’s children and he has sent us to learn and to grow in this mortal existence. We all want to be like our mothers and fathers and our Heavenly Father has given us the chance to be like him. I would ask this person if they had the opportunity would they want to be with there parents forever? How about there husband or wife? Children or siblings? Because most people would say yes I would go on to explain that this is possible through obedience to our Heavenly Father. There are things that we can do to be with our families for forever and if you know that you can do that why would you do any differently? That is why The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints holds marriage and family so sacred. Marriage is the first step in having a family. We believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. That children deserve to be raised in a home with both a mom and a dad. We hold marriage and families so sacred because they are not only our life while we are here in mortality but they are also our eternal life. If they still had questions I would hope to be able to answer them but I would also share with them The Family: A Proclamation to the World. I think that statement by the first presidency is a concise way of sharing with the world exactly what we think. I would then share my testimony of The Proclamation. I know that what the Prophets have shared with us is true. Heavenly Father sent us here with a plan to follow and when we do what is right and follow that plan we are blessed and able to return to live with him. I know that families and marriage are eternal life and I am so grateful that Heavenly Father has made it known to me that I am able to live again with those that I love. I know that I can follow Gods plan for me and raise a family of my own in righteousness. I know that every child deserves a loving family and home life to grow in and be taught about the eternal plan of happiness. I know that families are forever.
Salvation-A Family Affair
Teaching the Doctrine of the Family
Things as They Really Are
Thoughts:
Families are a large part of the reason we are on the earth. We are all God’s children and he has sent us to learn and to grow in this mortal existence. We all want to be like our mothers and fathers and our Heavenly Father has given us the chance to be like him. I would ask this person if they had the opportunity would they want to be with there parents forever? How about there husband or wife? Children or siblings? Because most people would say yes I would go on to explain that this is possible through obedience to our Heavenly Father. There are things that we can do to be with our families for forever and if you know that you can do that why would you do any differently? That is why The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints holds marriage and family so sacred. Marriage is the first step in having a family. We believe that marriage is between a man and a woman. That children deserve to be raised in a home with both a mom and a dad. We hold marriage and families so sacred because they are not only our life while we are here in mortality but they are also our eternal life. If they still had questions I would hope to be able to answer them but I would also share with them The Family: A Proclamation to the World. I think that statement by the first presidency is a concise way of sharing with the world exactly what we think. I would then share my testimony of The Proclamation. I know that what the Prophets have shared with us is true. Heavenly Father sent us here with a plan to follow and when we do what is right and follow that plan we are blessed and able to return to live with him. I know that families and marriage are eternal life and I am so grateful that Heavenly Father has made it known to me that I am able to live again with those that I love. I know that I can follow Gods plan for me and raise a family of my own in righteousness. I know that every child deserves a loving family and home life to grow in and be taught about the eternal plan of happiness. I know that families are forever.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
To Start
Welcome to Alex Sorensen's Family Proclamation Project Blog.
On this blog I will be posting some of my thoughts, ideas, articles, and other information that I feel helps to support The Family: A Proclamation to the World. I hope to post articles from The Quorum of the Twelve and videos from mormon messages.
On this blog I will be posting some of my thoughts, ideas, articles, and other information that I feel helps to support The Family: A Proclamation to the World. I hope to post articles from The Quorum of the Twelve and videos from mormon messages.
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